Once again, how is going with your goals, intentions or aspirations you have set for 2013? Remember goals are set to help you grow and develop. Are your paradigms supporting or limiting your progress?
I mentioned in the last blog post that my old paradigms (my habitual behavior patterns held in my subconscious mind) had taken over with one of my goals. I also mentioned that paradigms are very sneaky. They are so deeply entrenched in our subconscious and are what guides our behavior and how we make choices. They are like internal maps that provide us with “our reality” and create how we see our world. They also have survival and keeping us safe as their modus operandi.
Stephen R. Covey, the author of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” wrote, “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are – or, as we are conditioned to see it.” We believe our present reality is the way “things should be” and is the real “truth.”
Uncovering limiting paradigms is tricky. You must become a “paradigm detective”. You must ask the right questions and shake up your thinking by using your six creative faculties;
- Your imagination,
There are traps that we use to keep the paradigms alive. Again this is below our awareness, unless we put on our detective hat. There are four ways we can keep our paradigms running. We can analyze, justify, catastrophize or rebel.
So how do we apply this?
1. First you must be working on a goal that you really want. You must have your goal written on a goal card along with your positive affirmations.
2. Then you want to be getting emotionally involved with your goal because that involves change. Change shakes up our paradigms which want to keep us in a safe, familiar habit pattern. This in turn causes anxiety as we fear the unknown.
3. Now we want to become mindful and start watching our thoughts when we are going after what we want. The limiting paradigms will surface and now we have to investigate how we unconsciously keep them operating.
For myself, I have a goal of writing another book. A thought that starts to surface is; you have already written seven books, you don’t need another one. This is an example of ‘justification’. Or I could analyze and make the paradigm appear logical or catastrophize and make things bigger or worse than they really are or rebel against writing another book. My preferred trap to keep my paradigms running, is justification. When I do this, my instinct of survival and being kept safe is activated. This is also known as a comfort zone.
This exercise is part of a process to deconstruct our paradigms and move into the unknown (our new goal) with the faith that we are going to obtain our goal even before it is a physical reality. In my next blog I will continue this process as uncovering your limiting paradigms will enhance your ability to live an exceptional life and obtain your most worthy goals.
Here’s to your success!
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